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Saturday, May 4, 2013

Scandal Addiction...

Look at *OUR* addiction. Is Scandal such an addiction, especially to black woman, because this day, this need, this statement, this public show, this weekly declaration is something that WE - black women have long awaited? Long needed to, well... *HEAL* our battered souls. To repair all the damage done by our leading society who said... we were of "Low" things and nothing of "Value"? 

Has Scandal... and other such stories, tapped into our hurting place? That place that HELD US DOWN within our own minds even? Many of us work hard, REALLY REALLY HARD... to shake off - as Abby put it, the crazy. The crazy of this world that nailed us to the wall of, "Anyone can use, abuse, devalue, belittle, dehumanize, buy, sale, trade, exchange and "Have one" at the right price." How long now have we carried that - *ugly* hanging note around our necks?

Has Shonda Rhimes, thru Scandal - publicly broadcasted - THIS wake up call. Has Scandal and other such literature out today that features incredibly strong, intelligent, dignified women of color - doing what WE have long felt needed, has been long overdue? Removing the note? The sale merchandise note? Saying to the world...that all of the psychological garbage that has been DUMPED on us for centuries needs to be removed... because... enough PROOF is available PROVING that our society who "branded" this to our foreheads, color, hair and moral PROFILE is FALSE! SR's Scandal says, it has always been false! Has always been a lie! Has always been a plot, scheme, TRICK... to keep us down.

Without actually saying it - we show by our NEED for Scandal ... that having that WHITE president, the supposedly most powerful man on earth - lust, long for, obsess, stalk, love, hurt, protect, love, shake and need more, and yes again... LOVE with madness over that black, beautiful, intelligent woman, OP - soothes US - black women - to the core of our injured, abused being. We have needed THIS for so long... that we literally SHAKE to get the reformation of the false claims of us that has existed for far too long. 

Some of us I know will deny it, but others will give it deep thought and know that it's true. After all... would we be THIS addicted - truly, IF POTUS in this drama series were Black? A black man? Would we, really? How many of us would even be watching, let alone addicted to it to the degree that we are? It wouldn't be enough would it, if he were black? Why? Well, mentally speaking, psychologically we instinctively FEEL that a black man SHOULD love us, sooo - we cannot really GET validation of value from him. HE - we feel IS one of us. Thus, he's fighting for his own value place, validation. 

To really FEEL the validation of value that we or some of us, and our souls need - it can only come from attracting and holding - in a honorable position - what today is - the image of power. That image is the WHITE male. Let's face it, this is for now - fair or unfair, just or not - a WHITE world. They dominate it. They hold the so called laws & fashion dictate of value. They should not - it is not JUST that they do... because it should belong to God and only God. Yet, when it comes to what many see and need, here and now - they hold the validating purse strings of value. As James Brown sang, it's a "Man's World" and even more so, for the time being, a "White Man's world."

Thus, to attract, to hold, to entrance, to captivate, and GAIN the white male, and more so a POWERFUL, gorgeous, tall and dreamy white male that looks at one of us, saying.... I NEED YOU - I LOVE YOU - I TREASURE YOU - YOU are everything to me, and I am NOTHING without YOU......... umph... yeah... come on... come on... be real...

Heals US... the black woman. And that is one of the reasons *WHY* - Scandal has gripped our GUTS and will NOT let us go. Scandal is the public declaration, that black women... are VALUABLE - beautiful - intelligent and most certainly, a worthy CATCH to have and to hold. It removes that ugly, unfair, NOTE of sale that hung around our necks. It's been gone for a long time, but the scars, the damage from it, has been done and remains!

As a writer of my own interracial drama series, surrounding black, strong, beautiful female leads, loved and adored by alpha white males... I have to think deeply about the whys of everything I see. To make sense of it, first... helpls me to write about it, second.

Just my thoughts on the matter... as a black woman - yep... I admit it, I am Scandal addicted and I thought - I did NOT have that NEED for validation or value. How wrong I was, am - because Scandal has hooked me full on and then some. And despite the inconsistencies and descrepencies from season 1 to 2 that are blaring and clear, especially if you've watched it as much as I have - which there are more than a few... even that, those inperfectios aren't enough to turn me off of this incredible milestone NEED.

M. Keyes


  1. It was only a matter of time, Sweetie. ;) But, don't let this be another reason to not finish BOMAW, that will not be tolerated. I'll give Huck your address.

    1. Hahahahahahhaaaa - send him, I can talk Huck down... *wink*

  2. I am with you Mercedes!I am so addicted to Scandal too. I believe its because of the themes that you have just talked about too. I love that its a black woman who holds the key to his heart and that he is willing to destroy everything to have her. Right on. I cannot wait for the next installment and lets see how the world reacts to their love for each other. Now that is going to be very interesting!!!!

    1. Yep yep - thank you for being real - true and honest about that. I know that other races watch it. No wonder, it's a really well written drama series. So it's not like we're devoted to a token offering. Scandal is filled with heart, soul, deep reflection and a honest life-like scenario. So there is GOOD reason to be hooked.

  3. Well done MK! Interesting and gave a valid point to our need for acceptance from an arena that has been dominated by false perceptions. As I have not watched a full episode of this show, I can only say I am turned off by the idea of a woman of color being the "other woman" especially this one being well educated, attractive, and full of strength. Does this play into the images that the world sees of a woman of color...desirable but must be kept in the closet? Or does this truly show real strength of character? I need to watch a few episodes to make a full statement and I hope I am not disappointed.

    1. Joy... Scandal is HONEST. I like it because SR has taken what we've ALWAYS been, the hidden need, and turned it on it's head. She's showing what has always been in history. Scandal reminds me so much of Webster Fields. It really is, about the "Big House" - the "White" master - his white wife, the "Lady" of the house and his "Mistress". In history, this has always been. All the way up to our day. She, SR is showing how things once were and how it begins, and then... finally, for once... the white master, the white man, the white president, is showing all... that he cannot live, dwell, function nor operate of clear mind, WITHOUT his "black" woman, love - mistress. SR is showing how it's always been in the background, in the behind the scenes of life.

      Now... Fitz has laid it down, that he CANNOT go on to pretend. Pretend that his marriage is anything but a arranged marriage. He cannot go on, getting what he needs in the shadows. He is doing, what WE black women, have been needed THEM to do for a long time. Come out and say... THIS woman - this BLACK woman, is the love of my life. I cannot live without her. She is my STRENGTH - my AID - my ADVISOR - my LOVER - and the driving force of every breath I take. No more will I hide it, no more will I pretend...

      Last episode showed that he's about to do the right thing.

      I know there are black women who HATE this scenario - set up of this story... but - I get it. I get what inspired it, I get what the motivation is behind it. [ I ] - would NEVER write this story in this context... but I give props to SR for doing so. And for doing it so well.

      This is truly, a magnificent LOVE story... long overdue to be told. Yes, it's sad that he's married, yes adultery is wrong. As a married woman myself, I should be aghast and turned off by it, but I'm not, because... their LOVE is REAL.

      I've been cheated on in my personal life, and I've always said to the other woman... IF you can take him... then he IS YOURS and was never mine to begin with.

      As for the morality of it, I'm not life's judge ie; ( GOD the creator) thus, I cannot judge it. It really does reflect life and the way it is for some. Should you give in to watching it, watch it all the way - and then, PLEASE - write your blog thoughts on it. I would LOVE to read it.

  4. Hey Mercedes I have some of my Fellow scandalatics reading your BOMAW books and they love it. So I am not surprised how you feel about Scandal. You did put into words why so many of us love this show. I always said your BOMAW books should be turned into movies or a TV nightime soap opera. I said this before Scandal came out. My tv experience would certainly be complete if Scandal and BOMAW were both on. By the way when is the 13th book coming out?

    1. Hahaha, don't know why I wasn't notified about your post! But as you probably know, Bomaw Volume 13 is now out. Sorry I just say this, 7 months later! That is sad... :-(


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